Tension with Your Teen
The largest concern for a teenagers and adolescents is fitting in and being accepted. The things their life revolves around include friends, school and work. When they hear news of a move, they become fearful that everything of importance will be disrupted. Consider the following important points when moving with your teen:
Questions they ask themselves include, “Will I make friends?” “What will everyone be like?” They are curious about life after the move, so give them answers to their questions.
When teens hear about a move it is common behavior for them to rebel or act out. They may make comments like, “I hate you!” or “I’m not going”. Take a calm approach and attempt to explain the situation in a mature fashion.
Taking them visit the school beforehand or discussing what life in their new town will be like will help calm their insecurities.
Never be too busy for your teen. Even though moves are usually quite hectic, set aside some time to talk to your teen or address any problems he or she has.
Reassure them that although things will not be the same, they will meet new people and make new friends. Remind them that this is an opportunity for a fresh start.
Suggest that they organize a goodbye party and emphasize how easy it is to keep in touch with their friends via email, internet or phone. Encourage them to take pictures or gather phone numbers and addresses.
After you have moved and are somewhat settled in, organize a trip to visit your old city or bring some of your teens old friends along on a vacation.
